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Sometimes silence gets mistaken for weakness.
And sometimes, it has to be corrected.
Nollywood actress and producer Debbie Shokoya has drawn a clear line — addressing colleagues and coordinators who, according to her, have been quietly sabotaging her opportunities by telling producers she is “unavailable” because she gave birth and is still nursing.
Her response was firm, personal, and overdue.
Debbie made it clear that motherhood has never slowed her down. From just five months postpartum, she returned fully active — producing, working, delivering. Her child, she says, has never been an obstacle. So the lie hurts deeper, because it’s not just false — it’s strategic.
What truly stung wasn’t just the misinformation, but the intent behind it. Debbie questioned why refusing to be disrespected suddenly makes her a target. Why choosing dignity over insults gets rebranded as “difficult.” Why professionalism is mistaken for pride.
She reminded everyone that she is not just an actress — she is a producer who understands craft, timing, and collaboration. On her sets, respect is standard. Payments are backed with courtesy. Talent is treated as human, not desperate inventory.
And yet, she says, some people still approach negotiations like favors instead of partnerships — expecting submission, not discussion.
Debbie’s message wasn’t emotional.
It was instructional.
If you call someone arrogant, check your approach.
If you say someone is unavailable, ask yourself why they stopped answering you.
And if you spread lies, know this — they eventually circle back to you.
Her final note was direct: producers should reach out themselves. Judge for yourselves. She knows her value. She knows what she brings. And she refuses to shrink to make others comfortable.
Because sometimes the real problem isn’t a woman asking for respect.
It’s people who’ve never learned how to give it.
She questioned why they were trying to sabotage her because she refused to be treated any other way. The mother of one noted that she treats everyone with respect on her set as a producer and backs their payment with a good approach.
“IMPORTANT INFO‼️‼️
It’s High Time, I Addressed This…. I Have Had People Approach Me Themselves For Their Job, And The Whole Thing Went So Smoothly! I Have Heard How Some People Will Badmouth Actors To Producers, Just Because Of What Exactly? Till Today…Some PMs/Coordinators still lie to producers that I Am Unavailable Because I gave birth and am still nursing How Nah??? My Kid Has Never Been An Issue! I have been an active producer even right from 5 months after childbirth! So Why Sabotaging Me Because I Refused To Be Treated Anyhow? I Am A Producer! I Treat Everyone With Respect On My Set. I Understand It’s Your Craft, And No Matter The Amount I’m Offering To Pay, I Have To Back It Up With A Good Approach! But Some Of These People Come And Approach You Like You Don’t Have A Choice But To Jump At Jobs That Comes With Insult…
I Am One Person Who Doesn’t Mind The Money If It’s a good production, but the approach matters a lot to me! You Can Pay Me Hugely And Still Not Value Me. But From Your Interaction On Negotiation With Me, I Can Tell If You Truly Value Me And I Am So Big On That! So, Before You Go Around Sabotaging Yourself And Not Me… Ask Yourself Why???!!! Before You Call Someone Rude Or Arrogant, How Was Your Approach? Don’t Approach People And Sound Like They Are Nothing And They Don’t Have A Choice… It’s A Craft, It’s a Talent, It Requires Respect, No Matter How Little! If I Can Understand That And Give Respect To Everyone I Have On My Set, No Matter The Level Of Stardom You Have… I expect the same to be done to me, too! Enough Of The Lies Of “SHE’S NOT AVAILABLE, SHE WILL GIVE YOU PROBLEMS ON SET, SHE IS ARROGANT, HER CHARGE IS HIGH” Producers….Please Reach Out Yourself And Bare All This I Have Written In Mind Too. I Will Be Paid, I Am Considerate, But I Know What I Will Bring To The Table”.
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