Dad left when I was 3 and I became pregnant at 23. - Bisola Aiyeola Talks About Her Life Experience, Her Mum's Disappointment, Her Absent Father, And More

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Bisola Aiyeola, a well-known Nollywood actress and reality TV personality, has opened out about her road to parenthood and how her mother broke the news to her when she was just 23 years old.


The single mother revealed that her mother was quite unhappy when she told her the news and that was the first time she wasn't supportive in an interview with media entrepreneur Chude Jideonwo. 

 

 Aiyeola participated in BBNaija 2017 and finished as the first runner-up.
She also participated in Project Fame West Africa in 2008, when she placed fifth.


She claimed that becoming pregnant immediately after achieving fame and her mother's disapproval of it devastated her.
Bisola, who recently made history as the first black woman to host a Family Feud episode, said:

“When I told her I was having a baby after project fame, my mum wailed, like ‘who’s this boy that has stolen my jewel?’ I had never seen my mum that said before.

“She was like, ‘this (project fame) was what I thought was going to be the pivot that would escalate us to success and happiness and now you’re having a baby.’ It broke me.

“That was the only time I’d seen my mum not really be supportive. I had my daughter when I was 23. After she got over it and spoke to my sister, now she’s happy and would randomly tell me, ‘thank you. I’m proud of you.’”

The single mum also shared her experience of being raised by her mother alone while her father was absent in her life. In her words:

“My mum had two stores in Lagos Island. We were living [large] and people would call us London children. My mum traveled a lot. But life hit her. Her store got burned. She never got back on her feet.

“We hit rock bottom after which we started living from one family member’s house to another. I don’t have too many memories of my dad because he wasn’t really present in our lives. He left when I was 3 and I saw him only once after that. I think I was 13 at the time when he came to visit.

“Years before he passed, I called. I thought talking to him would spark something and make him want to reach out to me more. But it dawned on me there was nothing here. ‘Don’t push it. He wasn’t there for you growing up.’

“After that, I had an interview where I was sad about it. I felt that he wasn’t there for me. I got messages from my older siblings who told me they all went through it and it wasn’t peculiar to just me or my sister.”

She also talked about how her lack of university degree affects her in public. According to her, she regrets not having a university degree.

Bisola admitted that even though it’s almost impossible to believe that she dropped out of university, she still feels like she missed out on a major part of life.

The multi-talented thespian and singer noted that in gatherings, when people share their school experiences, she feels left out.

Aiyeola said she feels comfortable talking about it now because God has blessed her. She added:

“Till date, I still fill funny about not going to school, I feel like I missed out on a major part in life cos sometimes in gatherings when people talk about a school experience, I feel left out.

I wish I experienced for myself what it feels like to be in the four walls of the university but I feel good cos I have friends who have 2 or 3 degrees but are feeding today from their talent and skills and not using the degrees to fend for themselves of achieving their dreams.

I am okay talking about it now because God has blessed me, I don’t dwell on it. I feel blessed for where I am today and if I probably went to school, I will probably not be in the entertainment world today.”

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