#jaiyeorie
Toke Makinwa said she had been alone for so long that she was now used to her space and selfish towards herself. As a result, she likes the idea of a relationship more than actually being in one.
She added that she likes to go out, but it's a lot of work and she's looking for reasons to cancel when she asks to go out.
She wrote: "Been single so long that I like the idea of a relationship more than actually being in one, I am selfish with myself, I love my space, I like to move as I want, I love waking up sprawled out on my bed alone, the concept of “sacrificing” all these to “accommodate anyone scares me."
She continued: "I know I like to “date” but when I’m actually asked out on a date I think of a million reasons to cancel,the thought of putting in effort turns me off, in my head it’s rosy, in real life.... It is a lot of work and I can’t be bothered, who else can relate?
"Chatting is cute in the beginning, at some point I get tired and lose interest, can someone date for me, like can I hire an assistant to go on all these dates, share my CV, see if we are fit for each other and close the deal, i just want to fast forward the process.
"I think I know what the problem is, I have been in a relationship with myself for so long, dating myself and loving on me, I have become selfish, I’ll need to first break up with me but I like me, me works, me comes first, I don’t know how to undate myself. Whelp."
📎
The key is : Learn how to BE HAPPY BY YOURSELF FIRST.
Because a human being that is happy on his/her own will never settle to be miserable with someone else.
When you find happiness on your own then you will be able to spread it and share it with someone else.
... CRITIC ALSO 🖋️
spill TEA ☕
Easy on Shade 💣
Toke Makinwa said she had been alone for so long that she was now used to her space and selfish towards herself. As a result, she likes the idea of a relationship more than actually being in one.
She added that she likes to go out, but it's a lot of work and she's looking for reasons to cancel when she asks to go out.
She wrote: "Been single so long that I like the idea of a relationship more than actually being in one, I am selfish with myself, I love my space, I like to move as I want, I love waking up sprawled out on my bed alone, the concept of “sacrificing” all these to “accommodate anyone scares me."
She continued: "I know I like to “date” but when I’m actually asked out on a date I think of a million reasons to cancel,the thought of putting in effort turns me off, in my head it’s rosy, in real life.... It is a lot of work and I can’t be bothered, who else can relate?
"Chatting is cute in the beginning, at some point I get tired and lose interest, can someone date for me, like can I hire an assistant to go on all these dates, share my CV, see if we are fit for each other and close the deal, i just want to fast forward the process.
"I think I know what the problem is, I have been in a relationship with myself for so long, dating myself and loving on me, I have become selfish, I’ll need to first break up with me but I like me, me works, me comes first, I don’t know how to undate myself. Whelp."
0 Comments