“Only Witches Greet People With ‘You Have Gained Too Much Weight or Lost Too Much Weight’” – Ruky Indimi-Dantata

Nigerian billionaire heiress Ruky Indimi-Dantata has sparked conversation with her comment about people who make unsolicited remarks about another person's weight when greeting them. Her statement, “Only witches greet people with ‘you have gained too much weight’ or ‘you have lost too much weight’,” challenges a familiar social habit and raises questions about personal boundaries, body image and the difference between genuine concern and unnecessary commentary.

Taking aim at unsolicited observations about physical appearance, Ruky criticised the tendency to make someone's weight the first subject of conversation. Whether a person has gained or lost weight, such remarks can turn an ordinary greeting into an uncomfortable assessment of their body.

Her choice of words has attracted attention because weight-related comments are often dismissed as harmless conversation, particularly among relatives, friends and acquaintances. However, what one person considers an innocent observation may feel intrusive or hurtful to the person receiving it.

The comment also touches on a wider conversation about body image and the social pressure people face to maintain a particular appearance. In many communities, weight changes are treated as public information, with people feeling entitled to question or discuss another person's body without considering the circumstances behind the change.

Some people believe that pointing out weight changes is simply a way of showing familiarity or concern, especially when they have not seen someone for a long time. Others argue that a person's body is not an invitation for public commentary and that a greeting should not become an unsolicited evaluation of their appearance.

When someone tells you that you have gained or lost weight immediately after saying hello, do you consider it genuine concern, harmless conversation or an unnecessary invasion of personal boundaries?

Not every observation needs to be spoken aloud. Sometimes, the most respectful greeting is simply, “It's lovely to see you.”

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