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Jason Njoku, a businessman and father of three, has spoken his unvarnished opposition to the belief that being independent should prevent kids from being submissive to their parents.
The head of Iroko TV had this idea after reading a Tweet from a Nigerian who claimed that having one's own money and being independent are two methods to stand up for oneself against Nigerian parents.
Making your own money, in the opinion of @ChigozieObi_, is the finest way to take control of your life and prevent your parents from forcing their will on you.
The Twitter user had written:
“No matter the advice anyone wants to give on handling/speaking up for yourself against (Nigerian) parents nothing beats having your own money & being self reliant. Its no joke when they say money & independence stops nonsense. It takes away a lot of control people can have on you
There’s also a sense of self respect & “I don’t have to take this shit” attitude that grows in you as you make your own money & handle your life, you know that, they know that so now there’s more room for open convos, respect, you paying no mind etc. The hold is loosened or gone.”
Jason responded by saying he didn't agree with her and that one's income shouldn't affect how they interact with their parents.
He claims that he earns more money in a month than his mother did while she was still employed.
Despite everything he said, he nevertheless treated her with respect—if for no other reason than the fact that she was his mother.
Njoku, who is also a parent, asserted that if one's parents tried for them, all they need to do is set aside their ego and try for them.
He added that if a child fails to support his or her parents, he or she assures that their children would treat them similarly.
Read his full tweet below,
“So. Let’s start again. shouldn’t be the decider in child vs parent relations. If your parents calls. Try prioritize if. At 42 If my mum needs me or voices an opinion I don’t like. I listen. At the minimum she deserves that basic respect. I’m a parent. I hope my kids learn.
A Civil War which is trying to be fermented isn’t it. Our culture was never like that. It’s was all about community. I hate the way we are moving to nuclear focused. It’s not like the oyinbo are even happy with that model. I make a point wherever I am in the world to call my mum.
Daily. It’s only when you get to my age (42) & every month or so a friend’s parent is dying that you realize how important that connection is. Rich or poor. If your parents tried for you. Drop your ego and try for them. If you don’t I guarantee your kids will treat you the same.
This is a tangent btw. There was an original thread inspired me. It’s not directly related. Appears it’s causing too much confusion. . In summary. Love your parents as much as they love you. Opinions and control are in the eyes of the beholder. ”
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